Love is a benevolent process whereby two people try to teach each other how to become the best versions of themselves.
Loved this episode of On Being — it so perfectly captures how I view love and relationships, which while beautiful, can also be flawed and exhausting, and rest heavily on the shoulders of compatibility and communication.
We must fiercely resist the idea that true love must mean conflict-free love, that the course of true love is smooth. It’s not. The course of true love is rocky and bumpy at the best of times. That’s the best we can manage as the creatures we are. It’s no fault of mine or no fault of yours; it’s to do with being human. And the more generous we can be towards that flawed humanity, the better chance we’ll have of doing the true hard work of love.
Thanks for this – I think you’d love the book “All About Love” by Bell Hooks. It’s my newest and most favorite book on love currently.
Oooh thanks for sharing! I assume you’ve read Tiny Beautiful Things? Not exclusively about love, but one of my all time faves.
UM NO – adding it to the list :)
Oh my gosh, must read. https://www.instagram.com/p/BDuAYsRyFox
I think you’ll appreciate it for sure, but I hope you love it as much as I do.
Do you prefer ebooks or physical books?